Monday, January 21, 2013

New Year’s Resolutions, Pacing Oneself, and Staying Curious

One of the more difficult things about growing older is losing that child-like sense of wonder and awe. Very rarely am I truly surprised in a good way anymore. The older you get the wiser you hopefully are becoming and if you are very curious like me, there are less and less things to discover. I think this is why I like trying new hobbies, films, and reading so much. At least in reading, there are endless worlds to discover.



Over the weekend, I was at dinner. Luckily, my dinner date is someone where we talk about anything and everything. Our conversations go off on weird tangents, yet, we are always able to go back to the original topic. We eagerly ask questions and politely interrupt and give the floor back to the speaker once our curiosity is satiated. We always laugh about how we got on a certain topic and follow the topics backwards to see how we jumped from this bit to that bit, and ah yes... that was the catalyst. When you are free to talk about literally anything, even the so very mundane and inconsequential, it leads you to the most fascinating discussions. Everyone should have at least one person in their life like this.

During one such discussion, they threw out the word frisbee golf. And I was blown away. BOOM! I had never heard of it. I couldn’t even wrap my head around what it could even entail. As plain as the words frisbee and golf were, I couldn’t conjure up logically what the activity involved. Granted, I’m not so old that I should be in a senior home, but I like to try new hobbies. And I have lived in the states and Asia for quite some time that I’m not the most sheltered person in the world either. So for me to even live this long, in a few places, and to never even know such a thing existed, I was DELIGHTED! And of course, I am putting it on my list of things to do. To me, it was like discovering friends who didn’t know how to swim or ride a bike or had never tried sushi or cilantro. Really?! I have never gone skiing, but I at least knew what is was, but to never even hear the words, “I want to play frisbee golf,” EVER, in my ENTIRE LIFE, man! Where have I been?! It was so nice to be surprised and taken aback!

So as the new year unfolds so early in its birth, I am excited and curious. My plans to be more creative are humming along nicely. I have one project that is well underway in making things, with my own two hands. Hand-sewn felt toys and stuffing pillows to be exact. I’m keeping a vase of happy things that have happened for me to read at the end of the year (notes I write down and drop in a vase). And I’m incorporating and thinking about spiritual and health goals too, all the while of being mindful to pace myself and be realistic of what is do-able. My type A personality always wants to finish a task or activity COMPLETELY, RIGHT NOW because I’m just so excited. This results in staying up really late to finish a good book or whatever project I’m indulging in and throwing my sleep schedule out of whack. And while I do know how to slow down and relax, I tend to do one or the other exclusively - productive activity or absolute coach potato-ness. Six years of being a workaholic with no vacation? Sure, no problem! And then in the end, I needed and had the freedom to unwind and do nothing except play for 4 months for the sake of my sanity. It took that long for me to catch my breath. So this year, I am trying to slow down the pace to marathon, not sprinting... How are your resolutions coming along?



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8 comments:

  1. Just discovered your blog! I am an Executive Assistant in Minneapolis. Looking forward to reading past posts and gleaning helpful tips! Best, Annie

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    1. The Muser at Musings of a High Level Executive AssistantJanuary 22, 2013 at 12:45 PM

      Annie - Thank you so much for the comment. So glad you just found my blog and find it helpful! It's always nice to hear from new readers!

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    2. Thanks for the welcome. Forgot to say my wife and I are doing something similar to the vase idea. We have a gratitude jar (a huge old pickle jar I got at a garage sale) on our kitchen counter. Set up a little pile of note paper and a pen next to it. We jot down one thing per piece of paper that we're grateful for (as small as a freshly baked cookie, or as large as safety in an auto accident) and we will read them on 1/1/14. Best to you, Annie

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    3. The Muser at Musings of a High Level Executive AssistantJanuary 23, 2013 at 1:14 PM

      Hi Annie - It's so funny because I also put the pen and paper right next to the jar! And if I'm not home, I email myself what I wanna write from my phone! It's true, sometimes it's something small like my friend shared some of her snacks with me at lunch to something bigger like getting more comments from readers!

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  2. Thank you for sharing, this was nice to read. It reminds me of an idea I heard about last month of a "keeping jar" to "give away". I thought it would be nice to fill it with my childhood memories to give my mother. Or, memories of special days as well as ordinary days of my daughters lives while growing up. I like your idea of keeping reminders of happy things that happen to you this year. I hope it will be overflowing by December!

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    1. The Muser at Musings of a High Level Executive AssistantJanuary 22, 2013 at 12:50 PM

      Lori - I am glad you enjoyed my post! The keeping jar for your mom and daughters is a fantastic idea! I hope both of our jars are overflowing in December too!

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  3. Ah, frisbee golf! I'm a frisbee golf widow! My hubby was among those to bring the sport to Santa Cruz, where we used to live. It's a good sport to try (unless you have carple-tunnel syndrome, which it will seriously aggravate) and fun for groups. Ultimate frisbee is the go-to for some serious cardio. Not sure it was helpful, but was suprised to see frisbee golf mentioned here because, like you, I rarely hear this game brought up. Good luck!

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    1. The Muser at Musings of a High Level Executive AssistantJanuary 22, 2013 at 12:48 PM

      Anonymous - Thank you for the comment. I'll blog again on my experience on frisbee golf too! So glad to hear from others that know and enjoy the sport.

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